Why is denial the worst strategy?
One of the things that kept me so stuck in my anxiety was my denial of it.
This quote by Carl Rogers that I read again yesterday as I was updating my website (it is on my homepage) reminded me of it.
"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change."
The process of letting go of anxiety and getting back in control of my life started the day I said to my entourage: I am an anxious person.
Recognizing it actually diminished its power over me. By accepting it, I could deal with it instead of fighting it, denying it, hiding it, secretly resenting myself for it and feeling shame and guilt... Adding more pain to the pain.
It took a 1-year depression to get me to acknowledge it.
And from there, I was able to start the work on self-awareness, creating many small and bigger changes in my lifestyle, work on my mindset, learning how to manage my emotions,
Now, my anxiety is not defining who I am anymore. I am experiencing anxiety from time to time. It is part of the emotions I feel. It comes and goes. Not a constant state I am stuck in. It is not who I am. It is something I feel.
It has been a long journey for me, a lot of learning and growing.
I see this life experience as a gift I want to share with those who feel stuck right now in their anxiety. So they do not follow my path towards burnout or depression but create instead the change they need to experience joy and peace at work and at home.
I invite you to a journey of transformation that starts with fully embracing who you are with love and compassion.